OA few weeks ago my friend Zara tagged me in the #RockingMotherhood tag. If you’ve not heard of it before the #RockingMotherhood tag idea came from another fellow blogger, Patricia from White Camelias and it is where we note down 10 things that we do as mothers that totally rock (of course!)
We spend so much time feeling guilty about the things we do too little or too much of. That we don’t spend enough time with our children, or that we raise our voices too much or don’t have enough patience for them.
I won’t lie, it’s taken me a while to write this post simply because I didn’t think I could come up with 10 things that could even be justified as #RockingMotherhood. But what I’ve come to realise is this. I may not be the best designer (my day job), writer, blogger or photographer but to my boys, I am their number one (if you discount daddy that is) and THAT is what counts. So I may worry about them far too much and spend my life making sure that they are clothed, fed and on time for school, appointments and more. I may shout and nag about tidying up their toys and doing their homework but it is all done through love. A love I never knew existed until I became a mother.
So here are 10 reasons why I’m #RockingMotherhood
1. They know that anything boys can do – girls can do too. This is a real topic of conversation for us at the moment. Living in a house full of boys it’s so important for them to be aware and know from an early age that boys and girls can do the same things. We don’t like to gender stereotype.
2. When we are running late. I am able to get them washed, dressed and out of the house within 10 minutes! They may have never seen me move quicker, but when they do, they know I mean business.
3. My boys are generally well-behaved. I’ve taught them to know what type of behaviour is acceptable and where. Of course, they have their moments and they also have their fair share of meltdowns too.
4. I have a knack to know, at a moment’s notice where that beloved toy that they have misplaced is. (usually under sofa)
5. They are open to trying new foods. Mr H and I LOVE food and it’s transferred over to the boys. They are generally good eaters but I always say that they should try something at least once before they decide they don’t like it. If they try and they don’t like it’s ok and I don’t make a big deal of it. Everyone’s taste buds change as they grow up, I know mine did.
7. Being able to say sorry. I include me and Mr H in that too. I think it’s so important for us to say sorry and apologise when we’ve done something wrong and for the boys to see this. It shows we are all human after all.
7. We all chip in and do our share. I rarely have to tidy after the boys because they know any toys they have gotten out, they need to tidy away and not leave lying around. They also help with setting the table for dinner whilst I am cooking/cleaning and more recently M has started to help hoover whilst I am doing other household chores.
8. Being honest. I want them to know that generally in life, being honest is the way forward – even when they have done something wrong. E is learning that by doing this, he gets in a lot less trouble because he told the truth.
9. They don’t need me all the time. They are confident enough to do things by themselves or with each other, without the need for me to be there. (although I am usually lurking in the background making sure they are ok) I want to raise them to be confident in their skin and in themselves so I try to encourage them and give them a little nudge where possible, whilst also letting them know that it’s ok to be a little scared or worried and that I will always be here for them no matter what.
10. I do my very best at raising these small humans. They are happy and healthy and so I need to tell myself more often, that my best is good enough. They are my world and my everything.
I’m tagging the following amazing mothers below to join in:
Stacey – Stacey In The Sticks
Franca – A Moment With Franca
Tracey – One Frazzled Mum
Nadia – Scandi Mummy
Ky – Snapshot Adventures
The #RockingMotherhood tag is an excellent incentive to get thinking about ourselves as mums and concentrate on the positives. Thanks for sharing your list!
Fab post and lovely reasons. We all need to and more time to big ourselves up. I’m actually pretty good at both complimenting and knocking myself. Will look out for this tag and hopefully take part at some point. Liked and tweeted for you x
A lovely post.
My 17 year old son paid me a wonderful compliment the other night. He said that one of the things he really loves about me is that I never stop trying to do the right thing in life, no matter how hard it gets. So I guess I am rocking motherhood too!
I love these posts! It definitely sounds like you are rocking motherhood! 🙂 #KCACOLS
Great post! #KCACOLS
This is such a great post! I do agree that as mothers we have a tendency to focus on the negative far more than we should. I wrote a post about three things I was doing right, but that is all I could come up with at the time. So, I can see why this post took you a while to do. However, I think you focused on some pretty amazing things that you are doing! I would be willing to bank that many mothers could say many of these things too, but don’t credit themselves for it.
I love that you teach your boys that girls and boys can do the same things x
Ah these are all great, and I love that you teach your boys that girls can do the same as them. Thank you so much for tagging me. Now I’m also going to struggle trying to come up with 10 as I always tend to focus on the negative as well.
Glad you were able to do it – mums have way more than ten reasons! #kcacols
I really enjoy reading these posts. Sometime it’s difficult to give yourself praise but it’s great to hear all the amazing things your doing for your family.
It sounds like your bringing your boys up with excellent morals. I’m sure they will grow to be strong but well mannered young men as a result of your positive parenting. #KCACOLS
loving your answers Maria and you are so rocking motherhood! Honesty is def the way forward and i love that you are teaching them that anything boys can do, girls can do. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday!
I’m loving this tag. You are definitely rocking motherhood x
I love these #rockingmotherhood posts. I am yet to do mine from being tagged recently. But I’m loving reading everyone’s thoughts and reasons. I love that you try to teach them to be confident and have the do things by themselves. It’s such a great way of learning independence and becoming your own person #KCACOLS
Yes you are!Own that awesomeness mama! #KCACOLS
It’s lovely to highlight all the positive things you are achieving at what is a seriously tough job! You are doing a wonderful job with your boys x #KCACOLS
I’ve not seen this tag before, but what a great post! These are such lovely reasons why you are #RockingMotherhood 🙂
It’s been so lovely reading the values you are instilling in your children – well done for #rockingmotherhood! #KCACOLS
I can tell you thought about it a lot and have come up with some really original reasons why you are rocking motherhood (which of course you are). I love the 1st one about knowing girls can do what boys can do. And also number 4 about finding the toys. I’m not sure if I’m good at finding toys but I always try hard. #kcacols
Wow, really impressive, particularly your ability to get your kids washed, dressed and out of the house in 10 mins. Do you fancy coming to mine in the morning? Pen x #KCACOLS
I love this! We all need to take a moment and appreciate why we are great mothers! #KCACOLS
I love the rocking Motherhood tag! It really gets you thinking positively about how awesome you are as a mum. Parenting is not easy and we’ve all had those meltdown moments which tend to stick in our head. We need to see how amazing we are more. #kcacols
I love this tag, you really are rocking motherhood! #kcacols
I love this tag, it’s so nice to read something positive as I know lots of us parents spend too much time focusing on the negative. Love your answers, you are certainly rocking motherhood xx #KCACOLS
Aww – that definitely sounds like you are rocking motherhood to me! Great list! #KCACOLS
Great post you really are rocking motherhood! It’s so easy to get bogged down in what we are doing wrong or not doing it’s easy to forget what we do right isn’t it! #kcacols
Great answers! I love this tag and found it really nice writing such a positive post #kcacols
What a fab tag 🙂 and love your answers #KCACOLS xx