Whether you’ve been with your partner for a little while now, or you’re still in a brand-new relationship, there will come a point when you start to take responsibility for your partner’s birthday celebrations. On the one hand, this can be a fun experience, and an opportunity to show your loved one how much you care.
On the other hand, there’s a lot of pressure on you not to mess the experience up. If you don’t throw a fun birthday party, then you’re going to have a hard time getting back into your partner’s good books. Plus, you could ruin the impression that you have on your significant other’s family and friends too.
So, how do you get started?
Step 1: Do Some Digging
Make sure that you know exactly what your boyfriend or girlfriend likes or dislikes before you start planning. If you haven’t been together for very long, then you’re going to need to speak to as many people in your partner’s circle as possible to make sure you get this right. Find out what he or she likes doing when not with you.
It might be a good idea to ask for some tips on what to avoid too. Most friends and family members will be able to share at least a few examples of atrocities that happened in previous parties, so you know what to avoid. You can even get some tips on the kind of gifts that your loved one might want.
Step 2: Don’t Do Everything Alone
Planning a birthday party can take a lot of work. When you’re out there doing your research it might be helpful to appoint someone to be your helper for the day. Maybe you could get some assistance from a best friend for instance or reach out to a brother or sister for help and guidance.
You could even ask your partner’s mum to make some of their favourite treats in advance so you can surprise them with something delicious. Getting help from as many people as possible in your significant other’s life is a great way to make sure that you get at least a handful of your decisions right. Plus, it takes some of the pressure off you.
Step 3: Master the Menu
If all else fails at a party, the menu can be your saving grace. Make sure that you have plenty of your partner’s favourite foods available and easy to access. This way, if your party struggles because your outdoor event has been cancelled, or because something doesn’t go according to plan, at least you can all sit down together around the table and laugh together over some good foods.
If appropriate, it might be a good idea to stock up on some booze too. Your significant other is much more likely to laugh about the things that went wrong during their party if they’ve been buttered up with a few of their favourite drinks already.
Step 4: Steal Their Playlist
Rather than guessing at the kind of music you should have playing all of the time, ask your partner to make you a playlist because you want to check out more of the music that they’re into. It’s a good idea to do this a month or two before your partner’s birthday is coming, so they don’t get suspicious.
Once you have a list of the music that they like, you’ll be able to keep the party pumping with some excellent sounds that you know your SO is going to enjoy. Just make sure that all the music that he or she gives you is appropriate for the guests that are coming to the party.
Step 5: Relax
Remember, it’s just a party at the end of the day. Although it’s good that you want to give your other half a wonderful birthday experience, you could risk getting into an argument if your stress levels are high because you’re putting too much pressure on yourself. The last thing you want is for you and your partner to have stopped talking by the time that their birthday rolls around because you’ve gotten into a mood over something inconsequential.
Remember to have fun when you’re planning the party, and accept the fact that not everything will go right. You’re bound to have a few hiccups here and there, but if the worst happens, at least you’ll have some more interesting stories to share when you’re growing old together.